If your boobs are out along with your butt crack and you muffin top has reached maximum capacity, you're not "badd." If you cannot dress appropriately and still feel confident in your appearance, you have self-esteem issues. I want all ladies to recognize this because we are very imbalanced. As far as I'm concerned, a girl like Nicki Minaj is just as self-conscious as a girl that "looks like Precious." Why do we want to emulate girls who used sex as a main method for success? It has been our sex that has been used as a weakness for years! Even when blacks gained the right to vote, women were still expected to stay in the kitchen and serve their men. Women's suffrage is one of the newest civil right breakthroughs (next being gay rights), yet we prove to men that our sex is our weakness. We need to break the habit of thinking that sexuality will be our saving grace. Female sexuality as a business will rely on men as the consumer, forever leaving us bound to men for our needs. Where are the independent women?
I don't understand why we have perfectly capable women thrusting their breasts into Facebook pictures instead of their pretty faces. We have better ways to represent ourselves as human beings as opposed to sexual deviants. A woman who relies on her looks isn't confident in her abilities or in her intelligence. Stop praising sexuality as a means of success! Give me my Susan B. Anthony, Marie Curie, Harriet Tubman, Rosa Parks, Eleanor Roosevelt and Michelle Obama! These are the women to look towards and they are the examples we should live up to when I say that even in this day women are paid seventy cents to a mans dollar. My existence is not quantified by my rating from a scale of one to ten or by how many men I attract in a day.
A Nicki Minaj is not so different from a "Precious," two sorts of women whose insecurities are exploited by our society. An "ugly woman" is something to be fixed, a problem to be solved, a change need to be made. Jennifer Hudson, for example, just joined the Jenny Craig band-wagon. By no means is Jennifer Hudson ugly. When she first came out on the scene, I was happy a curvier woman was open to the public eye. However, her new Jenny Craig campaign saddens me. A perfectly good woman changed her body to fit the American ideal of what beauty is. What does that say to our younger generations? To my generation? I've been through my self-hate, I've been through my "fat stage," I've been through my "sexy-tight clothes stage," and now I'm at my acceptance stage. I am not thin, but that doesn't mean I'm ugly. Jennifer Hudson was not thin, but she was beautiful. Why did she have to change?
I know I've asked a lot of questions that I will not be able to answer, but that's not the point. If anyone reads this, I want you to consider why our society is this way. Consider what you may do and why you do it. A woman hiding her body under large clothing because she's self-conscious is not very different from a woman with her cleavage out because that's the only way she feels "sexy." We need to move our focuses from the sexual to the intellectual. When we become confident in ourselves, then we can worry about what a man may want from us.
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