Dear Fellas, I don't care how low your pants are. I don't want to know the disgusting bruises, cuts, scrapes, etc. your body has endured in detail. I especially don't want to know how many females you get to lay in bed with you. If you feel the need to boast about the tattoos you have, your sexual conquests, how much money you have, or the number of cars you have, you have self-esteem issues. Men complain that women are all the same (as do females) but that's because we use the same methods hoping for different results. If we put dating through the scientific method you will see that a man flaunting his money and cars will get a gold digger just about every time. I don't need you to prove to me that you're a man, kind sir. If I didn't know that, I wouldn't be talking to you.
I feel sorry for guys sometimes because there's a lot to be expected of you all, but it all can be contradictory at times. A guy is expected to be sensitive yet masculine, a tender hero, to always have time for a job, friends, girl, and sometimes families. Your friends call you "soft," your girl calls you a jerk, and you're supposed to figure out where in those two extremes you're supposed to be. To me, a real man is someone who takes care of their priorities first, and luxuries come later. Don't concern yourself with what your friends and girlfriend think. If you feel you have to push yourself to be anybody but who you are, it wasn't meant to be. For example, my friend has started going to the gym and started bench pressing. His friend called him a bitch for being hesitant to press 200+ lbs, so five reps into the exercise my friend hurt himself. If you're self-esteem is so bad that you're willing to hurt yourself to prove you're not a "bitch," you have larger issues than your muscle mass. If that's the only way to prove yourself to your friends, get new friends.
It's nice to have a fast car with all the features and the newest phone, but I'm not impressed if it's paid for by someone other than you. A hoopdie and a Metro is fine with me, and I'll go Dutch on a date if you're making an honest living. I'm aware that life isn't always easy and that money can get tight sometimes, but it's no excuse to risk yours safety for an illegitimate job (a.k.a. dealing drugs) to prove a point. Money isn't everything, and a good woman will help you when you need it.
And if you're single? Please remember this: STDs are real, cooties aren't. They are not synonymous, and they (STDs) are a real danger. If you can't get a relationship to work so you jump from "bitch to bitch," I understand why you fail at relationships. From my experience with my friend, there are some men that relish themselves with easy choices. An easy choice is a "bitch," slut, hoe, whore, skank, etc. (which is why these girls are called "easy"). If you want to show a girl that you're ready for a relationship, swallow your pride and put in the work. Relationships are hard, but are worth the effort. Having a classy woman who loves you for you is worth all the hassles in the middle. Easy choices will only leave you alone (in the long run) and at risk for Syphilis, Chlamydia, AIDS, Gonorrhea, etc. Remember, as much as you think you're playing these girls, they're probably playing you too. Who's paying for the dinner, movie, gas, drinks, etc.? Yes sir, you're being used just as much as you use them, making you the skank, slut, and bitch. If you respect yourself, you will know not to risk your health on users. It's trifling and nasty and will get you nowhere.
So if you want to be a man and not a bitch, get a real job, pay your own bills, get a real woman. Not only will you earn respect for yourself, but you'll get it from me as well and many others.
